Last evening and today I celebrated four Masses in South Dakota prairie towns--Faith, Red Owl, and Mud Butte. These places are served by a Polish priest who is part of the Rapid City Diocese and who went back home to visit his family. He has quite a trek every weekend. He lives in Faith and on Saturdays he drives over 60 miles to Red Owl for 4 PM Mass and then on Sundays he drives 40 miles to Mud Butte for 10 AM Mass. Here's the homily I preached:
I want to begin with a question, but you're going to have to listen closely to it. Do you have any "thems." You know, as in "us" and "them."
In the late 1960's when I was in high school, I was given a little reflection book by Malcolm Boyd entitled "Are You Running With Me Jesus?" One reflection went like this: "The definition of charity: No Them."
Our first reading (Acts 2: 1-11), the story of Pentecost, shows how diverse "Jews and converts to Judaism" from all over heard about "the mighty acts of God" in their own language as the apostles, uneducated Galileans, preached the good new of Jesus Christ to them. The Holy Spirit had performed a miracle that brought about unity in the midst of the diversity of many languages. All were able to hear and understand the Gospel. All were included.
In the second reading from chapter 12 of St. Paul's First Letter to the Corinthians, we hear that all--"whether Jews or Greeks, slaves or free persons"--are chosen to be part of the Body of Christ. No one is excluded. The Church has no "them."
This is God's plan for humanity--a unity amidst diversity. Humanity is made in the image and likeness of God. God, as we will reflect upon more in next week's feast of the Most Holy Trinity, is a mystery of One and Three. God is Three Persons and One God. There is diversity in the Divine Nature and unity. Thus humanity, made in this image, is meant to be diverse but one. We are not created to be the same or to be isolated individuals. We are made to be a communion of persons. In God there is no "them," only "us."
This unity amidst diversity is the work of the Holy Spirit, the bond of Love between the Father and the Son. The Spirit unites us to God and to one another, making us one. No "them."
In the Gospel (John 20: 19-23) Jesus said that the Father sent him. He was sent to reconcile humanity to God and with one another.
The word "reconcile" comes from a Latin word which means "to make friends again." Where sin separates us from God and one another, causing a break in our friendship, Jesus came to restore friendship. Friends do not see each other as "them."
As members of the Body of Christ we are now sent by him and empowered by the Holy Spirit to continue his work. The apostles and those ordained after them continue this work through the Sacrament of Reconciliation. However, all the baptized are sent to bring about reconciliation. We do that by forgiving one another, by works of mercy, and by our penance. The idea of penitential prayers and acts is to balance out the wrong in the world with good, to repair the damage of sin.
But what about the last line of the gospel: "whose sins you retain are retained?" What sins are retained?
It takes two to reconcile. People may hurt you and you go to them to tell them that you forgive them. But if they look at you and say, "I didn't do that; I didn't say that" or if they minimize the hurt by saying "Hey, that was nothing; get over it," then reconciliation has not taken place. The hurt, the sin, has been retained. You were ready to forgive but they were not ready to receive your forgiveness.
There may be instances where reconciliation doesn't happen because people do not admit their sin or excuse it. They are not able to receive mercy. Neither God nor we can force them to accept it without their realizing they need it and want it.
Our responsibility is not to impose reconciliation on others. It cannot be forced. However, we must always be ready to forgive, to make sure there is no obstacle in our hearts to reconciliation--no resentment, no bitterness. In other words, we must never see others as "them." We must pray for their conversion so that they will see their need for mercy and receive it. God wants everyone to be reconciled--to be friends of God and one another.
In the end, in heaven there will be no "them." There will only be "us"--humanity reconciled in the Body of Christ.
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Sunday, June 9, 2019
Friday, May 29, 2015
Post-Pentecost
When I was growing up before the Second Vatican Council, the Sundays after Pentecost were known as the Third or Fourth or Twenty-fourth Sunday after Pentecost. That gave the feast of Pentecost an importance that I fear has been lost as we return now to Ordinary Time, which really means Ordered or Numbered Time. The time after Pentecost, both the first one centuries ago and our celebration last Sunday, is the time in which the Church carries on the mission of preaching the Gospel and reconciling. This two-fold mission was made clear in the readings for Pentecost.
The first reading (Acts 2: 1-11) tells the story of the coming of the Holy Spirit at the first Pentecost Sunday. The power of the Holy Spirit was expressed in two ways--wind and fire. Jesus compared the Spirit to wind in John 3: 8: "The wind blows where it wills, and you can hear the sound it makes, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes; so it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit." We get the word "respiration" from the word "spirit" and the Hebrew word for "spirit" is "ruah" or "breath." The Holy Spirit is the Breath of God.
On the first Sunday after Pentecost we celebrate a feast in honor of the Most Holy Trinity. God the Father, the Creator, reveals the divine nature of love by creating. In doing so we see that God is "for us." The Second Person of the Trinity is "Emmanuel, which means 'God is with us'" (Matthew 1: 23). The Third Person of the Blessed Trinity, the Holy Spirit, is the breath that shows us God is "within us." We are temples of the Holy Spirit. God is as close to us, and as essential, as our breath.
Fire gives light and warmth. It also purifies and unites. Precious metals like gold are placed in a furnace to melt and be purified of dross or impurities. The Holy Spirit comes to give the light of truth, to warm and heal hearts, and to purify us so that we may be one.
Sin divides and separates. Early in history (see Genesis 11: 1-9), human beings rejected God's call to fill the earth. In fear, they clung together and tried to attain the glory and power of God on their own. To fulfill the plan for human beings to fill the earth, God confused their language and scattered them. But this scattering and confusion of language led to sinful divisions. Diversity became the source of conflict rather than richness in unity. The coming of the Spirit at Pentecost began the process of reconciliation and unity. The tongues or languages remained diverse but there was an amazing and miraculous understanding.
Before the Spirit came at Pentecost, the Son of God had to suffer, die, rise, and ascend. Jesus prepared the Church to carry on his work when he met the apostles in the upper room, gave them his peace, sent them as the Father had sent him, and empowered them to carry on his work of reconciliation by breathing on them (John 20: 19-23). He said: "Receive the Holy Spirit. Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained." Forgiveness requires two parties--one who extends forgiveness and the other who receives it. God is always ready to forgive, but people may reject that forgiveness. People may not recognize that they have done anything wrong that requires forgiveness and so they do not ask for it nor receive it. These are the sins that are "retained."
In the Sacrament of Reconciliation Jesus, through the priest, sends the Holy Spirit upon those who ask for mercy. The Spirit comes to purify and heal. There is no individual sin. As St. Paul wrote in the second reading (1 Corinthians 12: 3b-7, 12-13), there is one body that consists of many parts. Each of us is a cell within the Body of Christ. The health of one cell affects the entire Body, just as one cancer cell affects a person's physical health. Human beings are made in the image and likeness of God who is a Trinity of Persons. God is not an amalgam of individuals but a communion of Persons. Made in God's image and likeness we are made for communion. Theologians have said that the Holy Spirit is the love between the Father and the Son. The Spirit is the love that brings the Body of Christ together into one.
One of the invocations in the Litany of the Sacred Heart is "Heart of Jesus, burning furnace of charity." The fire that burns in the Heart of Jesus is the Holy Spirit who purifies, heals, and unites all who come to the Sacred Heart of Jesus. In that Heart and through the power of the Holy Spirit, all human beings can truly be one, one with God and one as God's family.
May the coming month of June, dedicated as it traditionally is to the Sacred Heart of Jesus, and the following Post-Pentecost months until Advent, make us one in the Heart of Jesus.
[The icon in this post is from the hand of Brother Christopher, a Carmelite Hermit. His God-inspired work can be found at the website for the Carmelite Hermitage of the Blessed Virgin Mary.]
The first reading (Acts 2: 1-11) tells the story of the coming of the Holy Spirit at the first Pentecost Sunday. The power of the Holy Spirit was expressed in two ways--wind and fire. Jesus compared the Spirit to wind in John 3: 8: "The wind blows where it wills, and you can hear the sound it makes, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes; so it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit." We get the word "respiration" from the word "spirit" and the Hebrew word for "spirit" is "ruah" or "breath." The Holy Spirit is the Breath of God.
On the first Sunday after Pentecost we celebrate a feast in honor of the Most Holy Trinity. God the Father, the Creator, reveals the divine nature of love by creating. In doing so we see that God is "for us." The Second Person of the Trinity is "Emmanuel, which means 'God is with us'" (Matthew 1: 23). The Third Person of the Blessed Trinity, the Holy Spirit, is the breath that shows us God is "within us." We are temples of the Holy Spirit. God is as close to us, and as essential, as our breath.
Fire gives light and warmth. It also purifies and unites. Precious metals like gold are placed in a furnace to melt and be purified of dross or impurities. The Holy Spirit comes to give the light of truth, to warm and heal hearts, and to purify us so that we may be one.
Sin divides and separates. Early in history (see Genesis 11: 1-9), human beings rejected God's call to fill the earth. In fear, they clung together and tried to attain the glory and power of God on their own. To fulfill the plan for human beings to fill the earth, God confused their language and scattered them. But this scattering and confusion of language led to sinful divisions. Diversity became the source of conflict rather than richness in unity. The coming of the Spirit at Pentecost began the process of reconciliation and unity. The tongues or languages remained diverse but there was an amazing and miraculous understanding.
Before the Spirit came at Pentecost, the Son of God had to suffer, die, rise, and ascend. Jesus prepared the Church to carry on his work when he met the apostles in the upper room, gave them his peace, sent them as the Father had sent him, and empowered them to carry on his work of reconciliation by breathing on them (John 20: 19-23). He said: "Receive the Holy Spirit. Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained." Forgiveness requires two parties--one who extends forgiveness and the other who receives it. God is always ready to forgive, but people may reject that forgiveness. People may not recognize that they have done anything wrong that requires forgiveness and so they do not ask for it nor receive it. These are the sins that are "retained."
In the Sacrament of Reconciliation Jesus, through the priest, sends the Holy Spirit upon those who ask for mercy. The Spirit comes to purify and heal. There is no individual sin. As St. Paul wrote in the second reading (1 Corinthians 12: 3b-7, 12-13), there is one body that consists of many parts. Each of us is a cell within the Body of Christ. The health of one cell affects the entire Body, just as one cancer cell affects a person's physical health. Human beings are made in the image and likeness of God who is a Trinity of Persons. God is not an amalgam of individuals but a communion of Persons. Made in God's image and likeness we are made for communion. Theologians have said that the Holy Spirit is the love between the Father and the Son. The Spirit is the love that brings the Body of Christ together into one.
One of the invocations in the Litany of the Sacred Heart is "Heart of Jesus, burning furnace of charity." The fire that burns in the Heart of Jesus is the Holy Spirit who purifies, heals, and unites all who come to the Sacred Heart of Jesus. In that Heart and through the power of the Holy Spirit, all human beings can truly be one, one with God and one as God's family.
May the coming month of June, dedicated as it traditionally is to the Sacred Heart of Jesus, and the following Post-Pentecost months until Advent, make us one in the Heart of Jesus.
[The icon in this post is from the hand of Brother Christopher, a Carmelite Hermit. His God-inspired work can be found at the website for the Carmelite Hermitage of the Blessed Virgin Mary.]
Sunday, June 8, 2014
The Holy Spirit, the Reconciler
I celebrated Mass this morning for the Sisters of St. Francis at Clare Hall today. Here is my homily:
In today’s gospel (John 20: 19-23), Jesus confronts the fear of the apostles on the evening of his resurrection. They had huddled together behind locked doors, afraid that they would be crucified next. And, no doubt, they were afraid when Jesus suddenly appeared before their eyes. Is he a ghost? Has he returned to condemn them for abandoning him in his hour of need? Jesus said, “Peace be with you,” and showed them his wounds, the signs of his everlasting love. He repeated, “Peace be with you.”
Fear divides people and leads to conflict and war. The Original Sin had its roots in fear. Our ancestral parents were afraid that God had not told them the truth about the trees in their garden. Could they really trust God? Wouldn’t it be better to get control, to have power, so that they would not have to depend on God?
Fear led to mistrust which led to rebellion. The result was immediate: separation and alienation from God and each other. Division.
Jesus came to take away sin and division. He came to reconcile humanity to God and to one another, to bring unity amidst diversity instead of division. He sent the Holy Spirit to continue this work of reconciliation and peace-making.
As a result, there are many different tongues or languages but one message. There are many parts but one body. There are many different gifts, forms of service, and workings but “the same Spirit,” “the same Lord,” “the same God” (see the second reading, 1 Corinthians 12: 3-7, 12-13). Notice the Trinitarian formula: Spirit, Lord, God, or Holy Spirit, Lord Jesus, God the Father. The Holy Trinity is the source of unity in diversity because this is God’s very nature—a Communion of Divine Persons. Three and One, as we will celebrate next Sunday on the Feast of the Most Holy Trinity.
Humanity is made in the image and likeness of God who is diverse and one. Human beings are not isolated individuals. Fear and sin isolate and divide. The Holy Spirit renews the image of God in humanity and brings about the communion of persons, making the many parts into one body.
Jesus commissions the apostles in the gospel to continue his work of reconciliation and peace-making: “As the Father has sent me, so I send you.” He empowers the Church to overcome sin that divides, breathing on the apostles and saying, “Receive the Holy Spirit. Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained.”
What does this retention of sin mean? Reconciliation is a two-way street. One who has been hurt badly may extend forgiveness to the offending party, but if the other does not admit the wrong, accept responsibility for it, recognize the need for forgiveness and receive it from the one extending it, then reconciliation has not occurred. The sin is retained. Forgiveness was extended but not accepted.
We must, like God, be always ready to forgive. And when the forgiveness we extend is not received, we must continue to pray, sacrifice, and make reparation, as Jesus did. We must do all we can to repair the damage that sin has caused, the division.
This is what it means to be filled with the Holy Spirit. This is what it means to carry on Jesus’ work of reconciliation and peace-making.
In today’s gospel (John 20: 19-23), Jesus confronts the fear of the apostles on the evening of his resurrection. They had huddled together behind locked doors, afraid that they would be crucified next. And, no doubt, they were afraid when Jesus suddenly appeared before their eyes. Is he a ghost? Has he returned to condemn them for abandoning him in his hour of need? Jesus said, “Peace be with you,” and showed them his wounds, the signs of his everlasting love. He repeated, “Peace be with you.”
Fear divides people and leads to conflict and war. The Original Sin had its roots in fear. Our ancestral parents were afraid that God had not told them the truth about the trees in their garden. Could they really trust God? Wouldn’t it be better to get control, to have power, so that they would not have to depend on God?
Fear led to mistrust which led to rebellion. The result was immediate: separation and alienation from God and each other. Division.
Jesus came to take away sin and division. He came to reconcile humanity to God and to one another, to bring unity amidst diversity instead of division. He sent the Holy Spirit to continue this work of reconciliation and peace-making.
As a result, there are many different tongues or languages but one message. There are many parts but one body. There are many different gifts, forms of service, and workings but “the same Spirit,” “the same Lord,” “the same God” (see the second reading, 1 Corinthians 12: 3-7, 12-13). Notice the Trinitarian formula: Spirit, Lord, God, or Holy Spirit, Lord Jesus, God the Father. The Holy Trinity is the source of unity in diversity because this is God’s very nature—a Communion of Divine Persons. Three and One, as we will celebrate next Sunday on the Feast of the Most Holy Trinity.
Humanity is made in the image and likeness of God who is diverse and one. Human beings are not isolated individuals. Fear and sin isolate and divide. The Holy Spirit renews the image of God in humanity and brings about the communion of persons, making the many parts into one body.
Jesus commissions the apostles in the gospel to continue his work of reconciliation and peace-making: “As the Father has sent me, so I send you.” He empowers the Church to overcome sin that divides, breathing on the apostles and saying, “Receive the Holy Spirit. Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained.”
What does this retention of sin mean? Reconciliation is a two-way street. One who has been hurt badly may extend forgiveness to the offending party, but if the other does not admit the wrong, accept responsibility for it, recognize the need for forgiveness and receive it from the one extending it, then reconciliation has not occurred. The sin is retained. Forgiveness was extended but not accepted.
We must, like God, be always ready to forgive. And when the forgiveness we extend is not received, we must continue to pray, sacrifice, and make reparation, as Jesus did. We must do all we can to repair the damage that sin has caused, the division.
This is what it means to be filled with the Holy Spirit. This is what it means to carry on Jesus’ work of reconciliation and peace-making.
Tuesday, April 8, 2014
The Mounted Serpent
It was in the form of a serpent that the evil spirit entered into the garden of innocence and tempted the first human beings. Thus it should be no surprise that serpents came to afflict the Israelites who had complained against God and Moses (see Numbers 21: 4-9). The serpents were a consequence of turning from God. But what is surprising is that an image of this evil, the serpent, became the source of healing. God told Moses to make an image of the serpent and to fix it on a pole. Anyone who had been bitten by the serpent would find healing by looking upon the mounted serpent.
Even more surprising, Jesus uses this image of the serpent to refer to himself. He told Nicodemus that "just as Moses lifted up the serpent in the desert, so must the Son of Man be lifted up, so that everyone who believes in him may have eternal life" (John 3: 14-15). How is it that Jesus uses this image of evil for himself?
St. Paul helps us understand this. He wrote: "Christ ransomed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written, 'Cursed be everyone who hangs on a tree'" (Galatians 3: 13). He also wrote: "For our sake God made him to be sin who did not know sin, so that we might become the righteousness of God in him" (2 Corinthians 5: 21). Christ "became sin" and in that way became the source of healing and new life. He identified himself totally with sinful humanity and took upon himself the sins of the world.
He also took upon himself the consequences of sin. Again, St. Paul: "And even when you were dead in transgressions and the uncircumcision of your flesh, he brought you to life along with him, having forgiven us all our transgressions; obliterating the bond against us, which was opposed to us, he also removed it from our midst, nailing it to the cross..." (Colossians 2: 13-14). Jesus took upon himself the judgment, the result of sin, and allowed it to be nailed into his own body on the cross. He made reparation, repairing the damaging consequences of sin, by offering himself on the cross.
In another place in John's gospel, Jesus refers to his being lifted up. He said: "When you lift up the Son of Man, then you will realize that I AM..." (8: 28). How is it that people will realize that Jesus, when he is lifted up on the cross, mounted like the serpent, a curse and sin, is God, I AM? Because God is love (1 John 4: 8, 16). What proves love? What is the greatest sign of love? What proves that Jesus is Divine Love itself?
St. Paul answers: "For Christ, while we were still helpless, yet died at the appointed time for the ungodly. Indeed, only with difficulty does one die for a just person, though perhaps for a good person one might even find courage to die. But God proves his love for us in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us" (Romans 5: 6-8).
Christ continues to give proof of his love when he is lifted up at Mass. At every Sacrifice of the Mass he makes present his life-giving death on the cross. Our faith is that Jesus is God and that he is present in the lifting up at Mass. His Body and Blood, lifted up, overcome sin and death. The serpent is defeated.
Even more surprising, Jesus uses this image of the serpent to refer to himself. He told Nicodemus that "just as Moses lifted up the serpent in the desert, so must the Son of Man be lifted up, so that everyone who believes in him may have eternal life" (John 3: 14-15). How is it that Jesus uses this image of evil for himself?
St. Paul helps us understand this. He wrote: "Christ ransomed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written, 'Cursed be everyone who hangs on a tree'" (Galatians 3: 13). He also wrote: "For our sake God made him to be sin who did not know sin, so that we might become the righteousness of God in him" (2 Corinthians 5: 21). Christ "became sin" and in that way became the source of healing and new life. He identified himself totally with sinful humanity and took upon himself the sins of the world.
He also took upon himself the consequences of sin. Again, St. Paul: "And even when you were dead in transgressions and the uncircumcision of your flesh, he brought you to life along with him, having forgiven us all our transgressions; obliterating the bond against us, which was opposed to us, he also removed it from our midst, nailing it to the cross..." (Colossians 2: 13-14). Jesus took upon himself the judgment, the result of sin, and allowed it to be nailed into his own body on the cross. He made reparation, repairing the damaging consequences of sin, by offering himself on the cross.
In another place in John's gospel, Jesus refers to his being lifted up. He said: "When you lift up the Son of Man, then you will realize that I AM..." (8: 28). How is it that people will realize that Jesus, when he is lifted up on the cross, mounted like the serpent, a curse and sin, is God, I AM? Because God is love (1 John 4: 8, 16). What proves love? What is the greatest sign of love? What proves that Jesus is Divine Love itself?
St. Paul answers: "For Christ, while we were still helpless, yet died at the appointed time for the ungodly. Indeed, only with difficulty does one die for a just person, though perhaps for a good person one might even find courage to die. But God proves his love for us in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us" (Romans 5: 6-8).
Christ continues to give proof of his love when he is lifted up at Mass. At every Sacrifice of the Mass he makes present his life-giving death on the cross. Our faith is that Jesus is God and that he is present in the lifting up at Mass. His Body and Blood, lifted up, overcome sin and death. The serpent is defeated.
Saturday, March 2, 2013
Can Sincere Contrition be Imperfect?
When I'm around Milwaukee on the First Friday of each month, I'm often invited to speak at the All-Night Vigil which moves around the archdiocese to different parishes. The theme for last night's vigil was the Sacrament of Reconciliation and I spoke about "Sincere Contrition and Resolve."
When I was growing up I was taught that there are five elements to a good confession: 1)examination of conscience; 2) confession of sins; 3) sincere contrition; 4) resolve or firm purpose of amendment; 5) performing the given penance.
What does "sincere contrition" mean? We sometimes speak about "perfect" and "imperfect" contrition. Perfect contrition means that we are sorry for our sins and go to confession because we know that our sins have disturbed our relationship with God and have actually hurt God. We tend to think of God being so infinitely transcendent that He cannot be touched much less hurt by us. Yet, when you love, you hurt for the one you love when that one is hurt. You share the hurt of the beloved. We are beloved to God, so much so that God became one of us, lived our life, shared our suffering and even death, and then rose--all to save us from our sins which hurt us and which risk ultimate alienation from God and others. Perfect contrition involves being sorry for our sins because we realize how much we are loved by God and how God does not deserve to be ignored and rejected.
Imperfect contrition is when we are sorry for our sins but our focus is not on God but ourselves. We are sorry because of how miserable our sins have left us or because we are afraid of where our sins could lead--to that ultimate rejection of God, God's plan, our goal of heaven.
Can imperfect contrition be sincere? Yes. The prodigal son is a good example of this. In the parable that Jesus told [which can be found in Luke 15 and which is today's Gospel], it's clear to us that the loving father did not deserve to be treated the way his younger son treated him, asking for the inheritance that should come to him at the time of his father's death. Later, when the son has lost
everything and is starving, what motivates him to return to his father? We wouldn't call this "perfect contrition." He's motivated by his hunger pains. Pain tells us that something is wrong and in this case the son "woke up" to the reality that life away from his loving father is horrible. And so he returns and is joyfully received by his father who runs to meet him as soon as he catches sight of him on the road back. Why does the father run to him and receive him back? Because he does not care about himself but his son. This is true love. Where the son's decision to return is motivated by the self-interest of getting out of his painful situation, the father's decision to embrace him is motivated by pure love. Imperfect contrition meets perfect love and is overwhelmed by it. We can imagine the son, not even able to finish his prepared speech before his father tells the servants to prepare for a party, coming to even greater sorrow and a more perfect contrition as he experiences such love.
But what about "sincere contrition?" This is related not so much to what motivates the contrition as the resolve one makes. Sincere contrition and resolve go together. Sincere contrition does not say "I'm sorry" while at the same time making plans to sin again.
We know we are weak and will have to battle the same temptations and probably confess the same sins again. Does that mean our contrition is not sincere? No. The devil would have us think that because we find ourselves falling into the same habits of sin our contrition or sorrow is not sincere. As long as we confess our sins asking for God's help to avoid our sinful habits in the future we are being sincere. We know we are weak and that's why we ask for God's grace to avoid our sins.
It's good to strive for perfect contrition but God accepts us as we are, just as the father accepted the wayward son motivated by hunger rather than sorrow. Seeing the joy he brought to his father must have softened the sin-hardened heart of the son. It must have made it easier for him to be faithful and, if he should slip in the future, have more perfect contrition. So it is with us as well. Our contrition may not be perfect, but when we see the joy we bring God by giving Him the opportunity to forgive our sins and heal us in the Sacrament of Reconciliation, it can be more and more motivated by love rather than by self-interest.
When I was growing up I was taught that there are five elements to a good confession: 1)examination of conscience; 2) confession of sins; 3) sincere contrition; 4) resolve or firm purpose of amendment; 5) performing the given penance.
What does "sincere contrition" mean? We sometimes speak about "perfect" and "imperfect" contrition. Perfect contrition means that we are sorry for our sins and go to confession because we know that our sins have disturbed our relationship with God and have actually hurt God. We tend to think of God being so infinitely transcendent that He cannot be touched much less hurt by us. Yet, when you love, you hurt for the one you love when that one is hurt. You share the hurt of the beloved. We are beloved to God, so much so that God became one of us, lived our life, shared our suffering and even death, and then rose--all to save us from our sins which hurt us and which risk ultimate alienation from God and others. Perfect contrition involves being sorry for our sins because we realize how much we are loved by God and how God does not deserve to be ignored and rejected.
Imperfect contrition is when we are sorry for our sins but our focus is not on God but ourselves. We are sorry because of how miserable our sins have left us or because we are afraid of where our sins could lead--to that ultimate rejection of God, God's plan, our goal of heaven.
Can imperfect contrition be sincere? Yes. The prodigal son is a good example of this. In the parable that Jesus told [which can be found in Luke 15 and which is today's Gospel], it's clear to us that the loving father did not deserve to be treated the way his younger son treated him, asking for the inheritance that should come to him at the time of his father's death. Later, when the son has lost
everything and is starving, what motivates him to return to his father? We wouldn't call this "perfect contrition." He's motivated by his hunger pains. Pain tells us that something is wrong and in this case the son "woke up" to the reality that life away from his loving father is horrible. And so he returns and is joyfully received by his father who runs to meet him as soon as he catches sight of him on the road back. Why does the father run to him and receive him back? Because he does not care about himself but his son. This is true love. Where the son's decision to return is motivated by the self-interest of getting out of his painful situation, the father's decision to embrace him is motivated by pure love. Imperfect contrition meets perfect love and is overwhelmed by it. We can imagine the son, not even able to finish his prepared speech before his father tells the servants to prepare for a party, coming to even greater sorrow and a more perfect contrition as he experiences such love.But what about "sincere contrition?" This is related not so much to what motivates the contrition as the resolve one makes. Sincere contrition and resolve go together. Sincere contrition does not say "I'm sorry" while at the same time making plans to sin again.
We know we are weak and will have to battle the same temptations and probably confess the same sins again. Does that mean our contrition is not sincere? No. The devil would have us think that because we find ourselves falling into the same habits of sin our contrition or sorrow is not sincere. As long as we confess our sins asking for God's help to avoid our sinful habits in the future we are being sincere. We know we are weak and that's why we ask for God's grace to avoid our sins.
It's good to strive for perfect contrition but God accepts us as we are, just as the father accepted the wayward son motivated by hunger rather than sorrow. Seeing the joy he brought to his father must have softened the sin-hardened heart of the son. It must have made it easier for him to be faithful and, if he should slip in the future, have more perfect contrition. So it is with us as well. Our contrition may not be perfect, but when we see the joy we bring God by giving Him the opportunity to forgive our sins and heal us in the Sacrament of Reconciliation, it can be more and more motivated by love rather than by self-interest.
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